I need help!!

Information for Nannies

I need help!!

sjarquin 08-16-2006, 3:42 PM
Ive been trying to post in the nannies forums cause thats my position but for some reason it wont let me and ive been trying to find help from other nannies because im in a pretty difficult situation. I been taking care of twins for a year now but thats not the problem cause I had prior experience with multiples before, the problem was that when I started working for this family I wasn't told about the condition of the little ones, the only thing they mentioned was that the girl had to take her medication on time, I asked what was the reason of does medications and I got no responce. after a while there I got to hear different stories from the therapist about the kids condition and now a year later there condition has worsen they are out of control. both of them have development delay plus fear to be in public places or were there is to much people or children, and they are violent. when I started working I was only told to take care of them, prepare meals, bathe, put them to bed and take care of kids laundry and tiddy up kitchen when needed. Now I have all sorts of indications from the parents starting from taking them to doctor's appointment, to therapies,psychiatrist, to swim class witch is a nightmare cause they dont like it and now that there about to go to school I will have to take and sit with them in the classroom till school is over. All this with out my prior consentment I have a weekly schedule that the parents leave for me so I now what therapies in which days and times, and all of a suden it's gotten so busy and I feel really over worked physically and mentally. Its so stressing what I put up to and Ive tried to talk to the parents and they told me it's normal that kids are like that, but Ive never seen kids like that in all the years of experience that i have. what should I do?

Re: I need help!!

babyd 08-17-2006, 7:34 AM
First off, it isn't normal for kids to be like that. The parents should have told you the conditions of the children before you began with them; by doing that they would be recieving a caretaker who was prepared for the behavior of the children. Since they now still do not give you the time of day to ask questions and seek help I would quit; This family obviously is just taking advantage of you.

Re: I need help!!

Chosen7Stone 08-18-2006, 12:04 AM

You have two options.

Set aside a time with the parents (outside your work schedule) to sit down with both of them and talk to them. Let them know that you don't like that they were not completely honest with you about the behavioral/psychological/social/whatever issues that their children had, and that you have a right to be informed of the responsibilities that the job entails before accepting the position. Because they did not properly inform you of what would be required of you, you are considering leaving the position unless you can come to some sort of agreement on how to lighten the overwhelming load. Either pay you more, reduce your hours, or ask that they take their children to certain appointments (i.e. swimming or therapy). Plan out exactly what you're going to say, and keep it short and to the point. Make sure you are calm, but firm.
If it's not worth it to you, find a new job. They don't seem like the type of people that are very honest or forthright, and only you know how they'd react to a sit-down like the one I described above.

*Love in Christ from Mary*
1 Peter 2:4-5

Vote my agency, Seminole Sitters, the "Best Overall Business" in Tallahassee for the 2007 Tally Awards at EverythingTallahassee.com!!!